{"id":13925,"date":"2019-08-07T13:52:53","date_gmt":"2019-08-07T13:52:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifescienceart.com\/?p=13925"},"modified":"2019-08-07T13:52:53","modified_gmt":"2019-08-07T13:52:53","slug":"break-up-cake-the-power-of-personal-narratives","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifescienceart.com\/vi\/life\/relationships\/break-up-cake-the-power-of-personal-narratives\/","title":{"rendered":"Vi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 thu h\u00fat: B\u00e1nh chia tay – Ch\u1eefa l\u00e0nh v\u1ebft th\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u00f2ng b\u1eb1ng v\u0103n ch\u01b0\u01a1ng"},"content":{"rendered":"

Vi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 thu h\u00fat: B\u00e1nh chia tay<\/h2>\n\n

S\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a t\u1ef1 s\u1ef1 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n<\/h2>\n\n

Trong l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c vi\u1ebft l\u00e1ch, t\u1ef1 s\u1ef1 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ee9c h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ed9c \u0111\u00e1o. Ch\u00fang m\u1edf ra m\u1ed9t c\u00e1nh c\u1eeda s\u1ed5 h\u01b0\u1edbng v\u00e0o tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, cho ph\u00e9p ch\u00fang ta k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u1edf m\u1ed9t c\u1ea5p \u0111\u1ed9 s\u00e2u s\u1eafc. Cho d\u00f9 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n v\u1ec1 n\u1ed7i \u0111au kh\u1ed5, chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng hay ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1eadt, t\u1ef1 s\u1ef1 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh truy\u1ec1n c\u1ea3m h\u1ee9ng, ch\u1eefa l\u00e0nh v\u00e0 gi\u1ea3i tr\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n

Ngh\u1ec7 thu\u1eadt vi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 n\u1ed7i \u0111au kh\u1ed5<\/h2>\n\n

Nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n chia tay l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t d\u1ea1ng t\u1ef1 s\u1ef1 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t x\u00fac \u0111\u1ed9ng. Ch\u00fang \u0111i s\u00e2u v\u00e0o s\u1ef1 ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, m\u1ea5t m\u00e1t v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm \u00fd ngh\u0129a sau khi m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 k\u1ebft th\u00fac. \u0110\u1ec3 n\u1eafm b\u1eaft hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a n\u1ed7i \u0111au kh\u1ed5, c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 v\u0103n ph\u1ea3i d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh, t\u1ea1o n\u00ean nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u ch\u1eef c\u1ed9ng h\u01b0\u1edfng v\u1edbi tr\u00e1i tim ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ecdc.<\/p>\n\n

C\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 ph\u1ea3n b\u1ed9i v\u00e0 n\u01b0\u1edbng b\u00e1nh<\/h2>\n\n

V\u1edbi tinh th\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a lo\u1ea1t b\u00e0i s\u1eafp t\u1edbi c\u1ee7a Inviting Writing v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c chia tay, t\u00f4i xin chia s\u1ebb c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n \u0111au kh\u1ed5 c\u1ee7a ri\u00eang m\u00ecnh, m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n xoay quanh chi\u1ebfc b\u00e1nh v\u00e0 n\u1ed7i \u0111au b\u1ecb b\u1ecf r\u01a1i.<\/p>\n\n

T\u00f4i h\u1ecdc l\u1edbp 11 khi g\u1eb7p Dave. Anh \u1ea5y h\u00e0i h\u01b0\u1edbc, quy\u1ebfn r\u0169 v\u00e0 c\u00f3 c\u00e1ch khi\u1ebfn t\u00f4i c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh th\u1eadt \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t. M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u \u0111\u00e1ng ng\u1edd, bao g\u1ed3m c\u1ea3 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n th\u00e2n c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i, t\u00f4i v\u1eabn y\u00eau anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111i\u00ean cu\u1ed3ng.<\/p>\n\n

M\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y n\u1ecd, t\u00f4i quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh l\u00e0m Dave b\u1ea5t ng\u1edd v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t b\u1eefa t\u1ed1i \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t m\u1eebng sinh nh\u1eadt anh \u1ea5y. L\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1edbi t\u1eadp t\u00e0nh n\u1ea5u n\u01b0\u1edbng, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 b\u1eaft tay v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t d\u1ef1 \u00e1n l\u00e0m b\u00e1nh \u0111\u1ea7y tham v\u1ecdng – m\u1ed9t chi\u1ebfc b\u00e1nh s\u00f4 c\u00f4 la t\u1eeb \u0111\u1ea7u. Sau nhi\u1ec1u gi\u1edd v\u1eadt l\u1ed9n trong b\u1ebfp, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1o ra m\u1ed9t ki\u1ec7t t\u00e1c.<\/p>\n\n

Trong khi \u0111\u1ee3i Dave \u0111\u1ebfn, t\u00f4i ng\u1ed3i v\u00e0o b\u00e0n b\u1ebfp, ng\u1eafm nh\u00ecn t\u00e1c ph\u1ea9m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebfn ni\u1ec1m vui c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y. Tuy nhi\u00ean, nhi\u1ec1u gi\u1edd tr\u00f4i qua th\u00e0nh nhi\u1ec1u ng\u00e0y, m\u00e0 Dave v\u1eabn bi\u1ec7t t\u0103m.<\/p>\n\n

V\u1ecb \u0111\u1eafng c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng<\/h2>\n\n

Khi cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng t\u00f4i li\u00ean l\u1ea1c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi Dave, l\u1eddi b\u00e0o ch\u1eefa c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y th\u1eadt kh\u1eadp khi\u1ec5ng. Anh \u1ea5y n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng anh \u1ea5y ngh\u0129 t\u00f4i s\u1ebd l\u00e0m b\u1eefa t\u1ed1i cho anh \u1ea5y, ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i b\u00e1nh. Nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y nh\u01b0 nh\u00e1t dao \u0111\u00e2m, k\u1ebft th\u00fac m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang t\u00f4i ngay t\u1ee9c kh\u1eafc.<\/p>\n\n

S\u1ef1 th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng th\u1eadt kh\u1ee7ng khi\u1ebfp. T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3\u503e\u6ce8 c\u1ea3 tr\u00e1i tim v\u00e0 t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n v\u00e0o chi\u1ebfc b\u00e1nh \u0111\u00f3, ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ec3 r\u1ed3i n\u00f3 b\u1ecb coi l\u00e0 v\u00f4 ngh\u0129a. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t l\u1eddi nh\u1eafc nh\u1edf \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn r\u1eb1ng ngay c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng c\u1eed ch\u1ec9 ng\u1ecdt ng\u00e0o nh\u1ea5t c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ecb \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i b\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 th\u1edd \u01a1.<\/p>\n\n

T\u00ecm th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 an \u1ee7i trong v\u0103n ch\u01b0\u01a1ng<\/h2>\n\n

Sau cu\u1ed9c chia tay, t\u00f4i t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 an \u1ee7i trong v\u0103n ch\u01b0\u01a1ng. T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 tr\u00fat n\u1ed7i \u0111au v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u ch\u1eef, t\u1ea1o n\u00ean m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n n\u1eafm b\u1eaft nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac th\u00f4 s\u01a1 c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00eam \u0111\u00f3. Th\u00f4ng qua h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng vi\u1ebft, t\u00f4i b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u ch\u1eefa l\u00e0nh v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n\n

T\u1ea7m quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a giao ti\u1ebfp<\/h2>\n\n

Nh\u00ecn l\u1ea1i, t\u00f4i nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 l\u1edbn nh\u1ea5t d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn cu\u1ed9c chia tay l\u00e0 do thi\u1ebfu giao ti\u1ebfp. Dave v\u00e0 t\u00f4i ch\u01b0a bao gi\u1edd c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n nghi\u00eam t\u00fac v\u1ec1 k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang t\u00f4i \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 n\u00e0y. S\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u l\u1ea7m n\u00e0y d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed5 v\u1ee1.<\/p>\n\n

S\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a \u1ea9m th\u1ef1c trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7<\/h2>\n\n

\u1ea8m th\u1ef1c \u0111\u00f3ng m\u1ed9t vai tr\u00f2 quan tr\u1ecdng trong nhi\u1ec1u m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. N\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 bi\u1ec3u t\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, s\u1ef1 \u0103n m\u1eebng v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i, chi\u1ebfc b\u00e1nh tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t l\u1eddi nh\u1eafc nh\u1edf ng\u1ecdt ng\u00e0o nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1eafng ng\u1eaft v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t mong manh c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00e0 t\u1ea7m quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 giao ti\u1ebfp r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng.<\/p>\n\n

V\u01b0\u1ee3t qua n\u1ed7i \u0111au kh\u1ed5 th\u00f4ng qua v\u0103n ch\u01b0\u01a1ng<\/h2>\n\n

N\u1ed7i \u0111au kh\u1ed5 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m ph\u1ed5 qu\u00e1t, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u1ea5t m\u00e1t v\u00e0 c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n. Tuy nhi\u00ean, th\u00f4ng qua s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a t\u1ef1 s\u1ef1 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm ra c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1eefa l\u00e0nh v\u00e0 ti\u1ebfn v\u1ec1 ph\u00eda tr\u01b0\u1edbc. B\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch chia s\u1ebb nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c m\u00e0 c\u00f2n c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft s\u00e2u s\u1eafc h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi.<\/p>\n\n

T\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm c\u1ea3m h\u1ee9ng t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n<\/h2>\n\n

Nh\u1eefng t\u1ef1 s\u1ef1 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n hay nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec1u b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m c\u00f3 th\u1eadt. Ch\u00fang d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh nh\u00e0 v\u0103n, t\u1ea1o n\u00ean m\u1ed1i li\u00ean h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ecdc v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng t\u1eeb ng\u1eef. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n \u0111ang t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm ngu\u1ed3n c\u1ea3m h\u1ee9ng cho t\u00e1c ph\u1ea9m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, th\u00ec h\u00e3y t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e2u xa h\u01a1n ch\u00ednh cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. Nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i k\u1ec3 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9c \u0111\u00e1o v\u00e0 qu\u00fd gi\u00e1, v\u00e0 ch\u00fang x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chia s\u1ebb v\u1edbi th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi.<\/p>\n\n

B\u00e0n b\u1ebfp nh\u01b0 n\u01a1i \u1ea9n n\u00e1u \u0111\u1ec3 k\u1ec3 chuy\u1ec7n<\/h2>\n\n

\u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u nh\u00e0 v\u0103n, b\u00e0n b\u1ebfp l\u00e0 n\u01a1i \u1ea9n n\u00e1u, m\u1ed9t n\u01a1i m\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c sinh ra v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng k\u1ef7 ni\u1ec7m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea1o n\u00ean. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 n\u01a1i ch\u00fang ta t\u1ee5 t\u1eadp v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n y\u00eau, chia s\u1ebb b\u1eefa \u0103n v\u00e0 tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. Trong h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh vi\u1ebft l\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh, b\u00e0n b\u1ebfp lu\u00f4n l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ed3ng h\u00e0nh kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed5i, n\u01a1i t\u00f4i t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y c\u1ea3m h\u1ee9ng v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 an \u1ee7i.<\/p>\n\n

S\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed5i c\u1ee7a v\u0103n ch\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n<\/h2>\n\n

V\u0103n ch\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n c\u00f3 s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed5i cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng ch\u00fang ta. N\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta ch\u1eefa l\u00e0nh v\u1ebft th\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u00f2ng, t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u1edf m\u1ed9t c\u1ea5p \u0111\u1ed9 c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n t\u1eebng c\u00e2n nh\u1eafc \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c chia s\u1ebb c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, t\u00f4i khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch b\u1ea1n h\u00e3y l\u00e0m nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. Nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi v\u0103n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh truy\u1ec1n c\u1ea3m h\u1ee9ng v\u00e0 ch\u1eefa l\u00e0nh cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng vi\u1ebft \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Vi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 thu h\u00fat: B\u00e1nh chia tay S\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a t\u1ef1 s\u1ef1 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n Trong l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c vi\u1ebft l\u00e1ch, t\u1ef1 s\u1ef1 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ee9c h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ed9c \u0111\u00e1o.…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1803],"tags":[18742,1152,18741,18744,18743],"class_list":["post-13925","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-relationships","tag-heartbreak","tag-personal-narratives","tag-break-up","tag-food-and-emotion","tag-writing-therapy"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lifescienceart.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13925","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lifescienceart.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lifescienceart.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lifescienceart.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lifescienceart.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13925"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.lifescienceart.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13925\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":13926,"href":"https:\/\/www.lifescienceart.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13925\/revisions\/13926"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lifescienceart.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13925"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lifescienceart.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13925"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lifescienceart.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13925"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}